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    Guys, could you be with someone who refuses to help out in the kitchen?

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    Post by RedBedroom on Sun May 20, 2012 2:21 am

    Is it a total turn off if your significant other won't help at all in the kitchen?

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    Post by Alan Smithee on Sun May 20, 2012 6:08 am

    Are you asking the men specifically? I guess I wouldn't have a problem with that as long as she was pulling her weight in other rooms of the house. About the only domestic chores my wife and I seem to specialize in are laundry and grocery shopping.



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    Post by Shale on Sun May 20, 2012 7:06 am

    For all the years that Brenda and I were together I did most of the cooking. When I started sleeping over at her apartment I took over the kitchen, which was actually not hers - she was living with her sister.

    Jim was a cook at a cafe when I met him. We shared cooking in apartments, and the bungalow we rented in India but I had more experience cooking on open fires in our travels.




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    Post by zthatzmanz28 on Sun May 20, 2012 10:44 am

    I do everything I can to keep her out of the kitchen. She is convinced she can cook. I will give her that she does not destroy what she cooks--just that she cooks boring food.

    When it comes to maintenance of the kitchen? I go CRAZY after the sinks are full of dishes and I cannot even fill the coffee well. And we have a DISHWASHER!
    Then she will get on me for putting the dishes in the dishwasher--AFTER I have to empty the dishwasher of last week's dishes.



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    Post by wants2laugh on Sun May 20, 2012 11:28 am

    i dont cook... i cant cook. i tried a few times and once i accidentally cause a rag on fire (that was actually his fault to not having pot holder ro an over mit!) i have three sisters who have had 5 husbands... and only one of the husbands didnt do all of the cooking (and he was disabled---couldnt grasp with his hand).

    personally if i take care of other crap.. then i shouldnt have to cook. chris told me that he didnt care if the house was a not exactly up to his cleanliness standards and i burnt the food, as long as i did it in lingerie and he still got blowjobs after marriage! LOL its good to have priorities in life! lol





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    Post by Alan Smithee on Sun May 20, 2012 12:07 pm

    wants2laugh wrote:i dont cook... i cant cook. i tried a few times and once i accidentally cause a rag on fire (that was actually his fault to not having pot holder ro an over mit!) i have three sisters who have had 5 husbands... and only one of the husbands didnt do all of the cooking (and he was disabled---couldnt grasp with his hand).

    personally if i take care of other crap.. then i shouldnt have to cook. chris told me that he didnt care if the house was a not exactly up to his cleanliness standards and i burnt the food, as long as i did it in lingerie and he still got blowjobs after marriage! LOL its good to have priorities in life! lol


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    Post by Tony Marino on Mon May 21, 2012 10:20 am

    Yes it is a turn off I would prefer the SO help out when its time to clean up.




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    Post by Nystyle709 on Mon May 21, 2012 9:05 pm

    Whatchu mean? Perhaps he's no good in the kitchen. Not a make it or break it factor.



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    Post by CatEyes10736 on Tue May 22, 2012 9:17 pm

    It's a major plus when they can and do. I can't imagine being with someone who expected me to do all the cooking and asked "when's dinner?" My BF cooks and feeds our daughter and it's a MAJOR plus in a relationship that it doesn't all for on me all the time.




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    Post by Chris on Tue May 22, 2012 9:42 pm

    It's not necessary that they help in the kitchen while I'm cooking, but it is vital that they can cook and are willing to share the responsibility.



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